The comfort of a dualistic world.

Separating things into one or the other might offer comfort or a sense of control over the events of life happening to us. When things are seldom just one or the other.

There isn’t only joy or sadness. There are all the emotions in between. Joy isn’t always what helps us grow, sometimes feeling sadness is better for us in the long run. Joy isn’t good and sadness bad. Nor are loss and gain. Strength and weakness.

There are many roads to choose from along the journey of life. Even though it might provide us with a false sense of security to think there are only left and right. There are a gazillion of choices and each one can lead to growth.

Loss and gain.

Is it about choosing one side? Or is it about choosing what to make out of whichever side you are on?

If you say it is on you to choose. Do you always have the choice? Sometimes we don’t choose to loose, nonetheless we have to make the best out of it.

What seemed like the loss of something can be transformed into gains. And what you considered your gains can bare more losses than you thought possible.

Do you merely choose, or do you create?

It might offer a sense of comfort to feel like you can choose your side. Good or bad, joy or sadness, black or white. And you can. But merely choosing isn’t enough. Sooner or later you’ll have to put in the work. One day you have to fight to stay on your side. At times you have to go through the opposite and all the sensations in between in order to truly appreciate the joy at the end of the tunnel on the side you choose.

Meanwhile it is always easy to offer the choice to someone else.

Easy to seek comfort in future commitments or labels so you can dismiss your present actions.

No choice is only black or white, good or bad. It is what you make out of it. What you create for yourself, when there is no one there to help you. When you refuse any excuses your ego has to offer. When you are merely doing it, because you know it is the right thing for the long run. Even though that means refraining from the easy pleasures offered by the instant. Even though for the present moment it might mean to suffer.

Only the choice to fight instead of running away makes you appreciate your gain over your loss.
And any outcome build on weakness is going to feel hollow. No matter how many times you try to choose the attraction to easy over the hard work of realness.

What do you think?

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